Menopause can kick in quite early for some women. If you are under 40 when it happens it can be mind-blowing to say the least, and it would definitely be, why the hell is this happening to me so early.
For me, I discovered in my late 30’s that my hormones must have been in balanced tremendously in my 20’s from what my homeopath told me, when she subscribed some lovely squid ink-based drops for me to take for the hormone in balancing she was treating me for at that time in my life.
Isn’t it wonderful how we take note of how we move through life, as each milestone in age comes, we discover something more about ourselves and what changes we want to bring about.
For me my thirties were all about being a good mother and creating a loving environment. Did you find when you approached thirty, you begun to assess your life, where you were, and what you really wanted to be doing?
The forties are the years when we begin to take a stance in life and not worry too much about what other people have to say, and begin to speak more of our minds, unapologetically as well, as we are more in tuned with who we are and what we stand for.
In was in my late thirties that I knew there was a change going on in my body, I was going through the menopause and went to my doctor, who was young (as she appeared to be in her late twenties, I decided to look at her more as a child) as she was telling me that I am too young to be going through the menopause and was very dismissive of me. At that time, I didn’t realise it was called perimenopause, to say the least, by the time she came around to understanding that I was perimenopausal, I knew for myself and decided to check out what to expect and talk to my sisters about what I was going through. That being said, it was more a discussion on the physical symptoms and not the emotional ones, this was something that unfolded for me to learn for myself.
Many women I have spoken to have said similar things, “that their mother didn’t really speak about what they were experiencing, when they were going through it, they were doers and just got on with it".
I did reflect back in time and tried to see the moments that I caught in myself being menopausal, and wondered when those same reactions might have taken place with my mum. The times of emotional despair, the mood swings, anxiety and even depression, the times where even the slightest thing can become an explosion, topped with the physical things that people can see such as the hot flushes and the sudden burst of sweat. I wondered how I never noticed it, or did I and just dismissed it being young and busy.
I do see strength in the women who have soldiered on with life as this transition took place but also feel how much stronger they may have felt if they were able to speak outwardly about what they were going through, so they may not have been left to feel that they were going through it all alone and that it wasn’t so taboo to speak about this change of growth, a rite of passage that we as women undertake.